Saturday, August 30, 2008
I found a link to this story on my friends Sparky's website, and I have to agree with her "Gah!" remark. According to Dante Moore, the best way for a woman to get and keep a man is to put up with all his bullshit and do everything he says. He gone so far as to write a book for women explaining this concept. Though, I have to wonder, for the men who take this disrespectful approach to dating, what kind of woman are they actually going to end up with? Probably not the girl they've been dreaming of (unless they are really into submissives with no self esteem). I'd like to think that any self-respecting woman would say "F that," and get the hell away from those men. Of course there is compromise and questions about power in any relationship, but there is a difference between that and complete disrespect for a woman as a competent human being who deserves to be part of a partnership.
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When I was a late teen, my mom gave me the book, Fascinating Woman, by Helen Andelin. It is basically the same idea from a woman's standpoint. But very manipulative, in a way. Always smiling and agreeing with a man, but being cute so he will want to pamper you and will give in when you stamp your cute little foot and pout.....
An alternative approach that I always thought would work is to have a dating collective, a small group of women who would back each other up with the males and help set limits. Individualism sucks so much on so many levels. Ditch it. Tell the guy right off that you have an affinity group that looks out for the interests of all group members. Families used to provide this function when families still had some power. Instead of having the guy over for dinner with the family he shows up for dinner with your group where, as he has been prewarned, his relationship with you is open for comment by the other members of your group and their accompanying paramours.
If this scares guys off, so what? Good screening mechanism for immature, self involved guys. Unattached guys could be invited to group dinners as a means to meet people. Unacceptable behavior would be essentially eliminated as guys would not want to be shamed by the group, or, even better, would listen to the groups feedback and change their ways. Just a thought.
I think that a lot of young people in the city actually have a pretty similar arrangement, Herb, even if it's not specifically stated. It's an intriguing idea to codify that, though.
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